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I was leaving a movie theater with a close friend this weekend-and noticed that the guy I am seeing had called three times... so I called him back as we were heading toward her car. He was talking endlessly and I started to playfully mock him during it... like... this guy won't let me go! My friend... decides that despite the fact she mostly tunes me out during our dinners and time together- because her head is face down and stuck staring at her phone...(and was she texting while we were watching a movie) to chastise me with "this is really rude". I have never mentioned her "rude" behavior...
I know that my patience has thinned to the tiniest threads...but this really shredded them... When I brought the point up...that she is always texting while we are out eating etc... I get... "since when do you ever stop talking...". (I talk because she doesn't... and that is what friends do I think... talk...I don't know... maybe I am dumb about this.)
Anyway, with that comment-I stopped talking. She followed with "am I right?". That was it for me. I said "I'm done with this conversation... " and asked for a favor... to let me out where we were so I could walk home. I told her to have a good night...and that was the end of it. Lesson learned.
I have realized-after dealing with so many people the last few years-that most really only want to hear their own stories...and are not very concerned with the other person. There have been several moments when I am talking to someone and get cut off or ignored if someone or something more "interesting" grabbed their attention... Maybe I am just super boring to talk to... but I have noticed from afar that not many really care about what is going on with that other person in front of them-unless they have something to gain. So this has taught me two things:
- That is is best that I only speak when I really have something to say. When filling up the space in the air is necessary. It is pointless to tell my story when no one is listening nor cares. I do not need to fill up that awkward silence between me and someone else. I will just let it stand... and maybe that person will stop wasting my time since they would rather be elsewhere and speaking with someone else. That will mean spending less time with certain people-but so be it. I am tired of dealing with this.
- I should make sure to be fully present to listen to someone else. I will be more mindful to not look at my cell phone or let my eyes wander and let someone or something else grab my attention. People deserve respect and to be heard.
As for other things-the weekend was a little blurry-I spent it fighting with someone who is supposed to love me... and I did not get anything accomplished... but the extra weight really made itself known... I am miserable. *sigh*